When tying the knot, it’s a given that you’d want your nearest and dearest there to share in the joy.
Typically, wedding guest lists include family from both sides, friends, colleagues, and sometimes even pets who add a touch of cuteness. A wedding is an ideal occasion for families to come together, celebrating the union of the couple at the heart of the ceremony, with all attention deservedly on them.
However, one bride-to-be has hit a snag in her wedding plans due to an unusual demand from her fiance’s grandmother.
With the wedding about 20 days away, the woman was shocked to learn that her future grandmother-in-law is considering not attending because the event coincides with her birthday. She expects the couple to cater to her birthday celebration if they wish for her presence, including providing a separate cake just for her.
Sharing her dilemma on Reddit, the bride-to-be wrote: “We’re about 20 days out until our wedding! We were visiting my future parents-in-law to look for photos for a little photo wall and got to talking about wedding planning with my future mother-in-law. She then tells us that her mum doesn’t want to come to the wedding because it’s on her birthday.”
The bride-to-be shared her predicament online, revealing that their wedding date coincides with the birthday of her fiance’s aunt and, unbeknownst to him, his grandmother as well. The groom had a distant relationship with his “miserable” grandma, which has led to some family tension.
They’ve decided on a subtle nod to the aunt’s birthday near the guestbook, which could be extended to acknowledge the grandmother. However, the groom’s mother insists a “small cake” would be more appropriate for the occasion.
Complicating matters further, the grandmother has alienated so many relatives over the years that seating arrangements have become a nightmare. The bride confessed: “At this point, I hope she doesn’t show up because, even me, who believes family comes before almost anything, cannot stand her.”
Online commenters were perplexed by the situation, pointing out that birthdays can be celebrated on alternative days, and there’s no rule against attending weddings on one’s own birthday.
One commenter remarked: “Is there some law that says you can’t attend a wedding on your birthday? I’m unaware of that one. Personally, I would take it as a compliment. She needs to stop being such a diva.”
Another chimed in: “I cannot imagine caring a single bit that my grandchild’s wedding was on my birthday – except to think it was pretty cool! Adults’ birthdays are not show-stopping occasions.”