Weddings can be done in a variety of ways – and whichever you choose is up to you.
Some people dream of having a huge ceremony with all their family and friends in attendance, while others want something more intimate with their nearest and dearest. It’s important to remember that no type of wedding is the “wrong” type, as long as you and your partner are happy.
But one bride-to-be has shared her frustration as her future in-laws attempt to hijack her wedding plans. She and her fiancé have decided on a low-key ceremony with just 10 guests, but his family are pushing for a more extravagant affair.
In a Reddit post, she explained: “We are inviting 10 people to our elopement/wedding thingy in November on a weekday. We are having a friend officiate a five-minute ceremony, go to lunch, and ta-da, that’s it.
“My family took the news well, my partner’s family doesn’t get it. My mother-in-law wants it to be a big wedding and we already told her no. Now she is trying to make the lunch ‘fancy’, and she wants to ‘call the restaurant to make it a reception’. I’m like, ‘NO, THAT IS NOT THE POINT’.”
The woman described the situation as a “nightmare” and said she and her fiance are now just considering eloping by themselves without inviting any family or friends to witness it.
Commenters on the post encouraged the woman and her partner to do just that. Many pointed out they can elope and inform their relatives once the marriage has been completed – especially if inviting family is causing too much stress.
One person said: “Elope – alone – on your terms – only what you two want! My husband and I did it, and we have zero regrets. My mum was p***ed, as was his step-mum, but we wanted simple with zero drama.”
And another added: “I had a teacher who got married in secret. They informed family and friends 10 years later by sending out cards on their anniversary. It was hilarious. His mother was p***ed though.”