Dealing with a deceitful partner is always tough, especially when kids are in the picture.
Discovering your other half has been keeping a massive secret can be devastating. Whether it’s cheating, financial deception, or simply sneaking off to the pub with mates under the guise of working late, it’s never pleasant to realise your loved one isn’t being honest. But what if you uncovered a relationship-ending secret while expecting your partner’s baby?
This is the predicament one woman finds herself in, as she revealed her “worst fears are coming true” after discovering her husband‘s clandestine activities. The expectant mum shared that they’ve been married for over three years and are eagerly awaiting their first child. She insisted the pregnancy “wasn’t an accident”, and both have been keen to start a family for some time, with her husband particularly “desperate” to become a father.
She praised her husband for his support throughout her pregnancy and had no doubts they would make the perfect team once their baby arrived – until now. In a Reddit post, the woman described her husband as a “weekend party animal”, and so far, she’s been content to let him enjoy nights out with his pals.
As she’s not a fan of “all the noise”, she doesn’t join him, and since she’s not the “jealous type”, she’s never fretted about him being unfaithful. However, over the weekend, her suspicions were aroused when her husband claimed he was “going to meet with the car mechanic” and would be home straight after – but by 3am, he was still out. The expectant mum tried calling him but received no answer, so she decided to check his office computer’s messenger app, where she was shocked by what she found.
She revealed: “There it was: a conversation with a girl right before he went out. Previously, they talked about a meeting that night, and she dropped a location of where to pick her up. There was a conversation before, too, where they were texting casually. It starts on October 4th, and it seems like he deleted the previous chat.”
The woman noted there didn’t appear to be anything sexual in the messages, but there was a hint that her husband had paid for this woman’s “nose job surgery”, which raised red flags for her. When she finally got through to her husband, she confronted him about everything, but she said he kept “lying” to her and denying what she’d discovered. However, when he returned home that night, he chose to sleep on the couch without speaking to her – seemingly out of “guilt.”
She added: “It is so embarrassing for me as a woman to end up in this situation of being cheated on while pregnant. It’s like one of the worst fears coming true. For the well-being of my baby, I’m trying not to stress out too much, but I also have no idea what to do. How can I cope with it? I don’t want a divorce.”
Commenters on the post advised the woman to reevaluate her relationship, as her husband’s actions, even if innocent, showed a lack of respect for her. One person wrote: “Have some dignity. Leave him. He does not respect you. Paying for surgery is not something you do for a casual friend.”
Another commenter chimed in: “Divorce. He’s obviously cheating. This won’t be the last time. You and your baby deserve better. And no, staying for the baby is NOT the right answer. Go to a friend’s, go back to your family, but don’t stay with a man who is doing this to you, especially when you’re vulnerable. He isn’t a good man or partner.”