A woman shared her frustration over friends who visit her once a year, consume more than their fair share and offer less each time they come around.
She took to Mumsnet’s ‘Am I Being Unreasonable’ forum to vent about the situation. The woman wrote: “We have friends who come and stay once a year. They both eat a lot (much more than we do) and expect breakfast, lunch, snacks and evening meals. They like a drink. This last visit (they stayed 3 nights), we got through 8 bottles of wine, 6 beers, plus G&Ts – most of that was consumed by them.”
The female also complained they expect to be driven everywhere and never offer to use their own car. The woman added: “Over the years, they bring less with them – they used to arrive with wine, chocolates, flowers – this time, they brought one bottle of wine.”
She expressed her dissatisfaction, considering she and her partner were shouldering most of the costs of their friends’ visit.
A woman has vented her frustration after claiming that her friends, who enjoy good jobs and higher earnings than her own, take advantage of her hospitality. “They have always paid for an evening meal at a pub on one of the days, but we end up paying for coffees/lunch out – they never offer but just say ‘we’re taking you out for a meal’ as if that justifies us paying for everything else,” she fumed, highlighting that their visits cost her a “small fortune” and leave her feeling “exhausted”.
She noted: “We have never stayed with them – they’ve never invited us,” expressing feelings of being “used” because she resides in a “popular tourist destination”. The woman shared her dread of receiving another request for a visit next year, asking for advice on how to handle the situation.
In response, commenters weighed in with suggestions. One advised: “Just say it doesn’t work for you. Do you have any contact with them outside of these visits?” Another, clearly irked by the situation, suggested: “Honestly, I think it is bloody cheeky and something people who live in tourist areas with a spare room always struggle with. You could reply to them next year, ‘Actually, we fancy a change this year for our annual get-together, we’ll come to you this time, let us know a convenient date’ and see what happens. But do you actually want to see them?”
Another person shared the same sentiment, posting: “Say you’d love to come to them next time. You can’t really have people to visit, provide all of that and complain about it. Either do it in a way you are happy with, or don’t do it. Buy less wine, pay for yourself for coffee, but don’t begrudge driving in your area or giving them breakfast and lunch.”