A woman has been advised to leave her fiancé after he invited a lawyer to their home to discuss adding his name to the title deeds of her house.
The woman inherited the property following the tragic death of her mother seven months ago, officially becoming the owner of the home three months ago.
Around this time, her partner proposed, saying that now she owns a house, it “made him feel like [they] were ready to be married”. Recently, he suggested she “add his name onto the title of the house” and has been quite “persistent about it”, claiming it’s a “necessary” step “to ensure ‘balance in [their] relationship and marriage‘”.
On Reddit, the woman said she’s never made him feel inferior in their relationship and as she earns more than him, she doesn’t understand how adding his name to the house deeds would “change anything”.
She added: “Since he insisted, and since we’ve been together for a long time and we’re engaged now, I decided to do it but only after we get married. He disagreed and insisted we get it done before we get married. After a lot of back and forth on this, I told him to drop it and wait till after marriage.”
The woman was left in utter disbelief yesterday when she returned home to find her partner had brought a real estate lawyer over to “arrange for the legal process to start now”.
She recounted: “I was completely shocked because I never agreed to hire a lawyer, let alone bring him to the house. I immediately asked the lawyer to leave. He tried to speak but I told him he needed to leave.”
After the lawyer departed, her partner accused her of selfishness and being “disrespectful not to the lawyer, but to him and what [they] agreed on”.
The woman responded: “I told him his pushing made me re-consider the whole thing now and he looked shocked and hurt then stormed out.”
The argument escalated over the phone, with him criticising her for being “stubborn” and “uncooperative” about securing their future living situation. Since then, he’s been “completely ignoring” her attempts to communicate.
Reddit users chimed in with advice, with one warning: “He clearly wants a piece of your property, likely through a divorce. DO NOT MARRY. DO NOT GET PREGNANT. RUN.”
Another advised: “He’s acting entitled to something that belongs solely to you. The timing of his proposal after you inherited the house is also suspicious. RUN AND DON’T LOOK BACK!”
A third added: “He’s being manipulative. Bringing a lawyer to the house without your consent is a massive violation of trust.”
One person offered some practical advice, saying: “Make sure your will is up to date, lock your credit”, while another wryly commented, “I wonder what would’ve happened had you asked the lawyer if he did pre-nups also.”
A further word of caution came from an individual who remarked: “You have been given a gift to see your boyfriend’s mask drop before you get married. Proceed very carefully from this point on. Your fiancé may be more attracted to your assets than to you, yourself. If you make him sign a prenup, he might lose interest and find someone else less cautious. Red flag, for sure.”