A woman is baffled after her future sister-in-law made an “entitled” and “bold” request to wear her wedding dress, which holds sentimental value, at her upcoming nuptials.
The dress was purchased thanks to the extra hours her mother worked to help her afford it, and the 29-year-old was extremely grateful for her mum’s support on the “happiest day of her life”. After her mother’s passing last year, the wedding dress is even more special to her.
Her younger brother Ryan is getting married to his fiancée Amber next month but Amber, who the woman described as “bold”, hasn’t got her dress yet.
On Reddit, the woman explained: “She says what she wants, takes what she wants, and doesn’t really think about how it affects other people. Anyway, a couple weeks ago, she called me and said she needed to borrow my wedding dress for her wedding.
“I was shocked. First of all, we don’t even have the same body type. The dress wouldn’t fit her, and even if it did, I feel like a wedding dress is a personal thing, you know?”
The woman turned Amber’s request down, being sure to explain why the gown is especially “important” to her and why she wouldn’t be comfortable having it be worn – or potentially altered – by someone else.
This didn’t sit well with Amber, who got angry and said she couldn’t believe how “selfish” the woman was behaving, before slamming the phone down on her.
Since this tense and awkward conversation, the woman’s brother Ryan has stepped in, accusing his sister of “ruining Amber’s wedding”. In an odd twist, Amber had already publicly told people she would be wearing the woman’s wedding dress, even going so far as sharing photos of it on Facebook.
Ryan went on to say the woman was being “petty” and insisted family should support one another. Undeterred by the woman’s refusal to cough up the dress, Amber went to her house while she was out at work under the guise of innocently wanting to try it on, and tried to persuade the woman’s husband to let her.
The woman added: “Luckily, he knew the story and told her to leave, but now Ryan’s mad at him too, saying we ‘ganged up’ on Amber. I’m so tired of this drama. I feel bad because I know weddings are stressful, but I also feel like they’re being unreasonable. Amber’s mum even called me saying I should ‘do the right thing’ and give Amber the dress.”
In the comments section beneath the post, people shared their thoughts. One person said: “The entitlement of this woman is astonishing. Stick to your no.”
A second said: “Amber should ‘do the right thing’ and accept no when told it.” A third said: “You have no obligation to lend your wedding dress to anyone, regardless of their relationship to you.”
Another suggested: “Hide the dress. I don’t trust people who are this entitled from personal experience. They get bolder and bolder.”
Someone else commented: “She’ll have to figure it out. Lots of wedding dresses are available at resale shops even”, and another added: “Manipulative as hell, is [your] brother sure he wants to marry a walking red flag?”