Lots of people think Christmas is the most wonderful time of the year and, in many ways, it is.
But, when it comes to our personal lives, it tends to lack in one area at this time of year. We may be full of joy and happiness, but our sex lives don’t always have the same amount of oomph.
While there are a million reasons to love Christmas time, there’s one thing that isn’t so great about it – as a nation, we have less sex. In fact, the most sexless day of the year is officially December 15.
If you’re wondering why this is, data suggests factors like shorter daylight hours and post-holiday fatigue contribute to a potential dip in libido around this time.
We’re generally super busy at this time of year, which means our personal lives are put on the back burner a little. But, there’s no need to worry if you’ve been feeling a little flat about it, as an expert is on hand to help.
Classified ad site, Vivastreet, worked with sex expert, Annabelle Knight, to help couples rediscover the magic in the bedroom during this festive slump.
Annabelle said: “Upping your libido around Christmas can be a challenge. It can be stressful. We’re all busy with friends and family, and there’s a lot of expectation to have the most perfect time. This can mean that it’s really difficult to prioritise intimacy.”
If you need help to light that spark again, here are Annabelle’s five top tips.
Prioritise quality time
The busy holiday season can leave little room for connection. Set aside moments to be fully present with your partner – whether it’s sharing a cosy evening in, or enjoying a festive activity together.
Quality time builds emotional intimacy, which can naturally boost libido.
Manage your mental health
Christmas is notorious for high-stress levels, with shopping, social events and family obligations piling up. Combat this with self-care practices.
Exercise, mindfulness and scheduling downtime can all help to lower stress and boost libido. Remember – if your body is existing in survival mode – it won’t be able to process or experience pleasure as it should so, even if you do find time, you’re less likely to enjoy it.
Set the mood
Create a more sensual environment by dimming the lights, lighting candles or playing soothing music. Engage in seasonal aphrodisiacs – a glass of mulled wine, chocolate-dipped strawberries or some ginger cookies all contain ingredients known to help boost sexual desire.
These simple rituals can reignite romance and help to get your intimacy back on track.
Explore your sensual side
The excitement of novelty can reignite passion. Try giving one another a sensual massage – you can get kits for this or, as Christmas is already an expensive time, use coconut oil from the kitchen or a body moisturiser you already have lying around.
Finding fresh experiences can make your relationship feel thrilling again and help you reconnect sexually.
Communicate your needs
As always, communication is key. Discuss how you’re feeling with your partner. Share your desires and address any concerns or challenges you feel that you’re facing.
Often, being vulnerable and honest helps to foster deeper intimacy, and can help to reignite your connection. This helps to make room for a more satisfying sexual relationship.
By focusing on relaxation, connection and by maybe getting a little creative with how you do it, you can turn even the busiest of festive seasons into a time of deeper intimacy and passion, which will help you have a happier and healthier relationship.