A man has ignited a debate after sharing that his bride-to-be wants to exclude his female friend from their wedding guest list. The 31-year-old is preparing to tie the knot with his sweetheart, Parker, 29, and hopes for a problem-free ceremony.
Even though they’re still in the early stages of planning their nuptials, Parker has already identified a non-negotiable issue – the guest list. Sharing his predicament on Reddit, he said: “Recently we were talking wedding plans […] I brought up how I’d have my brother as my best man, and that’s likely it as my only other friends are my best friend Morgan, 28, and her fiance Alex, 29, and that Morgan and Alex would attend as regular guests.
“She got quiet and then said Morgan won’t be attending at all, as she doesn’t want her there.” He revealed that he and Morgan became close friends four years ago after meeting through online gaming. He said: “I was in a super dark place, we clicked and became fast friends. She introduced me to her fiance and the three of us became friends.
“I became a lot closer with Morgan, and she helped me do a total 180. She helped me quit my old job and pursue what I wanted, she forced me to sign up for dating apps, etc. She helped me become the man Parker deserves. We had a weekly gaming session, and when I met Parker she was ecstatic for me. After Parker and I became official, I introduced them, and like Morgan had anticipated, Parker wasn’t thrilled about my best friend being a female.”
Sensing a potential problem, Morgan suggested cutting ties with him to avoid interfering with his new relationship. However, he rejected this idea, wanting her to stay in his life. He explained: “I told her I am a grown man and my girlfriend needs to deal with who I’m friends with. Morgan and I have never flirted, never had feelings for each other, she genuinely just is my best friend and I envision her as more of a sister than anything.
“As Parker and I progressed in our relationship, Morgan and I drifted apart but we still tried to maintain weekly gaming sessions. However, I cancelled it many times to spend time with Parker because I never wanted her to feel less important than Morgan. I’m pretty sure Parker deliberately planned dates on game night, but I don’t really care because I value her over Morgan.”
Despite only interacting with Morgan online due to the distance between them, Parker feels threatened by her and is finding it hard to hide her feelings. Seeking advice, he added: “We don’t even hang out in person, we’re strictly internet buddies. I told Parker that she’s being immature and inconsiderate of my feelings to want Morgan excluded, and that I love her more than anything, but she needs to respect my appreciation for Morgan. She won’t talk to me now.”
Commenting on his dilemma, one user pointed out: “Are you sure you want to marry someone who is trying to ruin your relationship with your best friend? Their gender is irrelevant this is a massive red flag. Parker is never going to accept Morgan. I think you need to seriously consider in your life if you are willing to shut out your best friend forever because that’s where you are headed.”
Another joined the discussion saying: “It’s pretty obvious your fiancée has some trust issues. I’m not here to bash her because it almost certainly comes from a place of pain. Seeing as how this engagement is fresh, you still have loads of time to see a couple’s therapist. I highly suggest this. You should be able to enjoy your friends, but she should also not have to feel these negative feelings. While one is brought on by the other person, it’s still painful for you both. If she is all you say she is, she should be willing to work through this with you and grow as a couple.”
And a third said: “I’m the Morgan in this situation and have had plenty of male friends cut out a friendship when they got married even though I’m also happily married with kids (I was raised with brothers and male cousins so I just naturally get along better with guys). All three friends this happened with ended up divorced because eventually their ex-wives just kept making them push everyone away and not just me. This is a deeper issue than your female friend.”