A woman has been left questioning her relationship after discovering her engagement ring was bought from Temu.
The 27-year-old was taken by surprise when her boyfriend of three years, who is 29, proposed to her. Overjoyed, she accepted his proposal with a grin – until she found out the cost of her ring.
On Reddit, she shared: “I really liked the ring when I first saw it and my friends and family all think it is stunning. It’s an oval cut with “diamonds” across the band. I asked where he got it and he wouldn’t tell me where, but that he got a great deal on it.”
“I didn’t think anything of it until yesterday we were in bed and I asked him if it was diamond or moissanite mainly out of curiosity. I don’t have a preference btw. He said he didn’t know and would have to look it up.” When she glanced over his shoulder, she noticed how he was scrolling through the Temu app, an online marketplace known for selling low-cost and sometimes low-quality items.
Intrigued, she asked him whether he bought the ring from Temu – but he didn’t respond to her. She added: “I asked again and he responded with something like “Does it matter?” and left the room and ended up sleeping on the couch. I spent all night so confused. Today decided to download the app and look up my ring and I found one that looks identical. I found the exact ring and it was listed at $38 (£28). I am mad.”
“He makes good money (200K/year) and I feel like he could’ve shelled out some money for a ring better than one on Temu.” While she doesn’t expect a ring worth tens of thousands of pounds, she thought she’d receive one that cost more than £28. Wanting to get to the bottom of it, she asked him whether he was ‘testing her’ to see how she’d react to a Temu ring.
However, he blew up at her for asking such a question. She added: “I asked him what was going on, if there was anything he needed to tell me, if he was “testing me” by doing this… Well that really set him off. “What kind of person do you think I am? You think I’m a cheapskate? A liar?
“You obviously think really poorly of me”… but still he never gave me a reason. So I asked why he was deflecting every question to victimize himself and to avoid my questions. He tried to leave again. So I tried deescalating and told him I see where he’s coming from but I need to know if he still loves me. He was immediately apologetic and still wants to get married.
“He said I can just pick my ring out and buy it with my own money. He said he’s sick of talking about this and it’s “water under the bridge” now. He’s acting like his normal self again since this convo. I hear him out there skipping around and humming to himself all happily and it’s actually p***ing me off. Maybe I’m being dramatic, but I don’t think I can handle a marriage with someone like this.”
One social media user commented on her post, saying: “The issue isn’t the Temu ring, it’s the inability of the boyfriend to hold a substantive discussion about the issue. The deflection and self-victimization is a way, way bigger red flag than whatever misguided logic he used to justify the original purchase.”
Another added: “Dude said it’s “water under the bridge” like he’s forgiving her for not being happy with his drop shipped ring. The audacity. I hope she truly understands how much he values her and has the self respect to know she deserves better.” A third joined in, stating: “He researched the ring so well that he doesn’t even know what the stone is? He’s a lazy cheap liar. She needs to drop that guy.”