A man has sparked a debate after revealing he was ‘kidfished’ by a woman on a dating app.
The bachelor, with aspirations of settling down and no current ties to marriage or children, opened up about his frustrations on Reddit. Seeking companionship, he turned to online platforms to connect with potential partners in his area but kept encountering women who were not ‘truthful’ about having children.
On the social platform, he vented: “I’m so tired of women leaving the ‘kids’ box unanswered on their profile only to have them drop the kids bomb on me during the date. I know, I know I could ask if they have kids prior to arranging a date but does there really have to be that much deception in the first place?”
He detailed his habit of declining matches with women who avoid questions regarding children, arguing for more honesty about such significant past ‘life choices’. His frustration grew apparent as he shared: “I normally automatically no swipe women who don’t answer the question because I just assume they’re trying to trick me, but every once in a while I think you know what maybe I’m being paranoid. I match, go on a date, and boom kids bomb is dropped on me. God, it annoys me.”
He continued, pointedly questioning the motives behind these omissions: “To the women that do this, why are you doing this? What is the end game here? Do you think the guy is gonna think you’re so sweet or attractive or whatever that he’s not going to care that you hid this major life choice from him? It blows me away.”
One user commented on his post, saying: “Women sometimes leave their motherhood status off their profiles because there are men who seek out women with children for… reasons. She should tell you before the date though in my opinion.”
Another user chimed in: “They should tell you before a date. If I am using a dating profile I do not put that I have kids because it can attract creeps. So just offering some perspective. I imagine other women think this way too. But it should absolutely be disclosed before meeting in person, assuming that you and these dates exchange a decent amount of messages beforehand. My two cents.”
A third user added: “I stopped putting it on my profile because I got a lot of attention from seemingly normal men who would eventually start asking a lot about my kids. I always tried to redirect the conversation away from them (only giving minimal details, such as an incorrect but close age, and genders), but some were relentless.”