A woman has been left baffled after her adulterous ex-boyfriend and former best friend repeatedly invited her to their wedding. The woman explained her ex, Josh, 27, ended their relationship to be with her best friend, Ana, 25, a few years ago.
While she was initially upset about the infidelity, she has since moved on. However, three years later, with no contact in between, the pair are now trying to mend bridges enough for her to attend their nuptials.
She shared on Reddit: “I received a message from Ana, telling me that she and Josh were getting married and that they would like me to be a part of the wedding party. I replied, ‘Congratulations. No, thank you.’
“I had no feelings for Josh anymore and I’m even seeing someone else, but I don’t want to celebrate the wedding of two people who betrayed me.”
“They were insistent. Josh also messaged me via a different number. Some of my friends also tried to convince me to come to the wedding. I firmly said no. Even my mum called me asking if I was going and when I said no, she sounded disappointed but she didn’t push it. This is all just quite weird to me. Why would you want your ex-girlfriend/ex-best friend, the girl you cheated on, to be part of your wedding party?”
The couple persisted in ‘harassing’ her, trying to convince her to attend their wedding. The bride’s mother even called her, insisting she would be sorely missed and urging her to change her mind.
She stood firm, adding: “I firmly said that I would not be going. Her mum berated me, saying that I should let bygones be bygones and that I should be happy for her daughter.” In response, she questioned the bride’s mother: “I asked her if I cheated with Ana’s boyfriend and then invited her to the wedding, would she convince Ana to go? She had no answer to this and I hung up.”
Seeking guidance online, she further added: “This is quite getting out of hand because I’m receiving more than 20-30 calls and texts a day from their friends and family about this wedding. Any advice on how to handle this? Also any insights on why they want me to go to their wedding? I don’t think it’s normal that they are very insistent.”
People were quick to weigh in, with one person saying: “They want you at the wedding to help relieve their own guilt they think it will make people think all is forgiven and forgotten when in reality no one will ever trust these two people with their partners or friends ever let them rot and if people go on and on cut contact with them too.”
Meanwhile another suggested: “I suspect Ana doesn’t have a lot of female friends. No one trusts her around their boyfriends. No one wants to be her bridesmaid. Ana made her bed, and now she can lay in it. They’ll stop bugging you after the wedding. In the meantime, block.”
A third respondent weighed in, revealing: “They want you at the wedding to rewrite history. They started their relationship in the worst possible way and probably think that if you’re at the wedding it legitimises their start. They couldn’t possibly have betrayed you if you were at their wedding.”
Delving deeper into personal curiosity, they added: “Out of interest have you asked them why they are so insistent? Part of me would want to go and ruin their day. Wear red. Tell stories about how they got together. But I’d probably just block them all, they’re not worth the effort.”