A teenager in a relationship with a 27-year age gap is seeking advice on how to introduce his older boyfriend to the family – admitting he’s older than his mum.
The 19-year-old lad has been dating a 46-year-old man for about a year, having met him when he moved to university. He kept their relationship a secret from his family as he explored their bond and tried to figure out whether they could make it work long term. To his joy, they have been slowly building a positive relationship – and he is now ready to introduce his partner to his family.
However, he is concerned about how his mum will react to his boyfriend, given that he is older than her. He shared on Reddit: “I was recently talking to my mum about what me and him got up to last weekend and she was interested in meeting him.
“I have no problem with this he’s an incredibly sweet and funny man and I’m really happy in my relationship with him the only potential problem is that. She doesn’t know that we have a large age gap and I’m worried that this will make her uncomfortable as he is older than she is.”
He fears his mum will “write him off as a creep” without getting to know him due to his age. Seeking advice, he added: “If she got to know him I think they would really get on, they have the same sort of dry humour. So I just wanted to know that if your son brought home someone older than you how would you react? Any help I would really appreciate it.”
One user responded to his post, stating: “There are plenty of sympathetic reasons a 19-year-old might want to date a 46-year-old. There are no sympathetic reasons a 46-year-old wants to date a 19-year-old. This is not a special exception. Dude is gross.” Another added: “I don’t have any advice because I am also writing him off as a creep.”
A third chimed in with: “I think you actually have a feeling inside telling you that there’s a problem, and that’s why you are afraid to introduce him to her. You know she will see what you are denying. Of course, he’s sweet to you: that’s what predators do. (My toast gets all buttered up, too, before I eat it.) Cut off this relationship, for your own good. Stop denying what you know.”