Once a relationship has ended, it’s not typical for an ex-partner to continue providing support.
Usually, when a couple decides their relationship isn’t working, they part ways and often cease communication. While there are cases where exes remain friends, breakups are generally difficult – particularly if the split is due to an unforgivable act like cheating.
This was the case for one man who discovered his girlfriend of 11 years had been unfaithful. After ending the relationship, instead of moving on, his ex-girlfriend, now with her new partner, made an audacious request for him to “continue paying her bills”.
The man shared his story on Reddit, explaining that while he isn’t wealthy, he managed to cover his girlfriend’s bills, treat her to weekly dates, and plan several holidays each year. However, post-breakup, she insists that he should vacate his own home so she can move in with her new boyfriend, yet still expects him to foot all the associated bills.
He recounted: “She said because I had family in the area and she didn’t, I should move out but continue paying the bills to give her and the new guy a chance to get on their feet. She also insisted on keeping my dogs and told me I could only see my own dogs if I asked the new guy. But since they didn’t have any money, I needed to continue paying for food and vet bills. Instead, I kicked her out and kept my dogs.”
His ex then even tried to ‘sue’ him for lost wages after she had to switch jobs due to moving house. When that failed, she turned to his family for financial aid.
He continued: “She started messaging every family member of mine that she could find. Told them I cost her everything out of spite just because she moved on with someone else, and that the least they could do is send her money to help her get a place and pay rent.”
“I don’t understand how she doesn’t understand that any financial support I gave her would end if she cheated on me. We weren’t married. We don’t have kids. I’ve supported her for years. I owe her nothing. I really don’t owe it to her to help her and her new relationship get on their feet and establish themselves. Which seems to come as a shock to her.”
Online commenters were left stunned by the woman’s audacious demands, advising the man to cut all ties and resist any pressure to comply with her requests.
One individual advised: “Time to block her on everything. Talk to your family and have them block her on all social platforms as well. She wanted to move on with someone else, now it’s time to put on her big girl pants and pay for her own life.”
Another said: “She really thought that once your relationship with her ended, you would continue to fund her lifestyle. You felt massively disrespected and hurt by her. To me, it sounds like she was only with you for your money, not for who you are.”