A woman shared her frustration after her long-term boyfriend was invited to a wedding without her, despite the fact he had a past fling with one of the bridesmaids.
The couple in question even stayed at their house for two weeks last year, though this was the first and only time she’d met them.
The groom’s excuse for not inviting his close friend’s significant other? They’re not married yet – though they have been together for four years and are living together.
Despite understanding the tough decisions that come with planning a wedding, she can’t help but feel slighted. Her boyfriend agrees it’s wrong but feels there’s nothing they can do to change the situation.
Though she’s trying to be mindful of the expense and stress associated with the big day, her boyfriend’s cavalier attitude about her being left off the guest list is something she’s struggling with, as it’s really upsetting her.
On Reddit, she shared: “I also haven’t really felt like he’s been empathetic to how I’ve felt about his friends not wanting to make an effort with me. I don’t want him to miss one of his good friend’s weddings (nor has he offered to) but he’s also not made me feel like we’re a team in this situation.”
The woman questioned if she was being overly “sensitive” as it’s “not fair to put the blame on” her boyfriend, yet she remains “most upset” over the handling of the situation. Adding fuel to the fire, her boyfriend had a past fling with the bride’s sister a decade ago, which is making her feel “more on edge” about the upcoming wedding.
Fellow Reddit users weighed in on the matter in the comments section. One advised: “It obviously sucks not being invited, but I would trust your boyfriend if you’re worried about the bride’s sister and their previous fling. You are entitled to your feelings.”
However, another commented: “Every bride and groom has the right to invite whomever they want. But no choice is free of consequences. If you didn’t invite the [significant other] of a friend, be ready for the end of this friendship.
“Just because a couple isn’t married it doesn’t mean their relationship is less… This whole ‘it’s your day and you do you’ is getting completely out of hand.
“There are social norms and if you decide to break them you have to live with the consequences. OP, your partner should decline and you both should go on a nice trip on this day.”
Another concurred: “Long-term partners are not plus ones, they are units and both should be invited regardless of marital status and how well they both know the couple… Plus ones refer to an unknown guest the attendee is allowed to invite, not people in committed relationships.”