A mum has taken to Mumsnet to vent her frustration after her son’s girlfriend’s father labelled him with a vile two-word name.
She felt the need to provide some context for readers before anyone could form an opinion, explaining her son and his girlfriend have been “on and off” for four years, but they “always end up back together” as they “love each other, are extremely well-suited”.
The mum did share the pair had cheated on each other, but recently, they reunited in October, deciding to put their past misdemeanours behind them and focus on their relationship while both fully committed.
Of course, as with any relationship, the mum said she was unsure as to whether it would actually work out, but said she was “rooting for them” and hoped they’d be “very happy together”.
However, her son’s girlfriend’s dad does not share her optimism about their relationship, as the mum revealed her son had been branded a “cheating weasel” by his girlfriend’s father, who has banned him from his house since October.
She wrote: “This means that my son and his girlfriend spend most of their time in my house, where they are both absolutely welcome. I cook the girlfriend endless meals, look after her when she’s ill, and take her out for dinner when the whole family is going out.”
She added: “My attitude is that anyone my children love is welcome at home (within reason, obviously – I wouldn’t welcome a serial killer) and if my son holds no grudge for previous cheating (which would be a bit rich since he did the same! ) then I certainly don’t either. It’s his home too and therefore up to him.”
The mum expressed her disbelief at the girlfriend’s dad’s behaviour, saying she “cannot understand how his girlfriend’s dad isn’t totally ashamed of himself,” especially when they welcomed her son’s girlfriend back with “open arms”.
She also criticised the girlfriend’s mother for supporting this “terrible policy”, and vowed to write them a letter expressing her thoughts if her son and his girlfriend ever break up. She concluded: “I’ve also decided that neither her father nor her mother are welcome in my house – not that this should ever be an issue,” she fumed.
One commenter said: “You’re over-involved. Writing them a letter if your son and girlfriend ever broke up is over the top. Are you absolutely sure her parents are even aware she cheated, too? Stay well out of it.”
Another person shared: “I think you’re very invested in what you describe as an adult relationship and perhaps would benefit from stepping back. Ultimately, whether you agree or disagree, it is the parent’s house, and they have a prerogative over who enters it.”
A third person added: “Your son’s girlfriend may have fed her parents a somewhat… altered story about the constant break ups and get-togethers. She may have edited her part. Maybe your son has told you another story that’s not quite true (although I would have thought that she would have put you right by now).
“But actually – it’s none of your business. They are 20. By all means, make her comfortable in your home, but stay out of her parents’ relationship with her. You only know what you are being told.”